Milestones · 3–5 years

Being understood

Speech should be clear to people outside the family by now. This is also when fine motor skills and early pre-reading take center stage.

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Age 3 to 5

What most preschoolers can do

Preschool is where early skills start to predict school. These are the ones our therapists watch for, across speech, movement and learning.

Speech Therapy

How children understand, use, and share language with others

3–4 years

Compares things using words like "bigger" or "shorter"
Retells a story from a book or show
Uses location words like "in," "on" and "under," and small words like "a" and "the"
Says t, k, g, f, y and "-ing" correctly in words
Talks smoothly most of the time, and most people can understand what they say
Tries sound blends like the "tw" in "tweet," even if not every sound is right yet ("spway" for spray)

4–5 years

Speaks in longer, grammatically correct sentences
Tells stories with characters, a setting and connected ideas
Uses time words like "yesterday" and "tomorrow" correctly
Understands location words like "behind," "beside" and "between"
Follows simple game rules
Recognizes 10 or more letters and can usually write their own name
Notices rhymes and blends word parts ("cup" + "cake" = "cupcake")
Says most consonant sounds correctly and is understood in conversation

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Occupational Therapy

Fine motor, sensory, self-care and play skills for everyday life

3–4 years

Pedals a tricycle
Catches a large ball thrown from 5 feet away
Able to imitate a circle and a cross
Beginning to hold a crayon or pencil with a 3- to 4-finger grasp
Beginning to cut along straight lines; developing to cutting curved lines by 4 years
Drinks from an open cup
Buttons large buttons
Completes a 4-piece puzzle

4–5 years

Prints name from memory
Colors within the lines
Draws a person with at least 6 or more different parts
Zips a jacket
Cuts out a square

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Physical Therapy

Big movement, strength, balance and coordination

3–4 years

Runs and changes direction with control
Balances on one foot for several seconds
Walks down stairs alternating feet
Throws a ball overhand with aim
Jumps forward with both feet together

4–5 years

Hops on one foot several times in a row
Skips, gallops and runs smoothly
Catches a smaller ball with hands only
Climbs playground equipment confidently
Rides a bike with training wheels

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Feeding Therapy

Chewing, swallowing, textures and calmer mealtimes

3–5 years

Eats a widening range of textures — crunchy, chewy, mixed
Uses utensils independently, and can serve themselves with some spills
Drinks from an open cup without a lid
Sits at the table for the length of a family meal
Tries new foods without distress, even if they don't like everything
Keeps a steady list of accepted foods rather than dropping groups

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Orofacial Myofunctional Therapy

Where the tongue, lips and jaw rest and how they move

Under 4

Thumb sucking, finger sucking and pacifier use are normal at this age
Mouth breathing during a cold, or while teething, is expected
The tongue rests forward in the mouth in infancy and settles back over the first years
This is the age we watch rather than treat — habits that stop on their own need nothing
If your dentist or pediatrician raises a concern early, we're happy to talk it through

4–6 years

Tongue rests on the roof of the mouth, not against or between the teeth
Lips are gently closed at rest, without effort
Breathing happens through the nose, including during sleep
Thumb, finger and pacifier habits have stopped
Swallowing happens without the tongue pushing forward against the front teeth
Speech sounds like "s," "z" and "th" are coming through clearly
Chewing happens with the lips closed

About Orofacial Myofunctional Therapy

The age-4 checkpoint

By four, people who don't know your child well should understand most of what they say. If you're the only one who can translate; that's the single clearest signal it's time for a speech and language check, and the earlier it happens, the shorter the work usually is.

These are general guidelines, not a diagnosis. Preschoolers learn on a wide range of timelines: a child who is a little behind on one skill is often right on track.

Communication milestones are adapted from the American Speech-Language-Hearing Association (ASHA). Each range shows when about 3 out of 4 children have the skill, so it’s normal for some children to reach it a little later. Look at the age ranges just before and after your child’s age too.

Worth a closer look

Trusting your gut is never overreacting.

At 3 to 5, these are the patterns our therapists would want to hear about. None of them mean something is wrong; they just mean it's a good time to ask.

Getting in touch is exactly that: a conversation about what you're noticing. You don't need a referral to have that conversation. have it.

If any of this sounds familiar, ask us about it.

Signs to mention at 3–5 years

Hard for people outside the family to understand by age 4
Often repeats sounds or words, or gets stuck, after age 4, or shows frustration about talking
Not using full sentences by 4
Can't retell a simple story or event by 5
Sound errors that are making it hard to be understood at preschool or kindergarten

Who helps at this age

Speech therapy Occupational therapy Sensory gym

Is your child a different age?

Milestones at every age

Infants

0–12 months

First sounds, first rolls

View milestones

Toddlers

1–3 years

First words take off

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Preschoolers

3–5 years

Being understood by others

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School age

5–13 years

Skills that carry into class

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Their next milestone is closer than you think.

Call, text or send us a message and you'll talk with our office manager about what you're seeing and what support would look like, before anything is scheduled.